What I try to encourage is appreciation. True appreciation is, of course, natural elegance. Fundamental appreciation of phenomena—in the very nature of their appearance—is all that is needed. There are the phenomena which we apprehend, the phenomena of our being, replete with the sense fields which animate that being. Elegance is composed of delight and fearless embracement in which we are not gluttonous, timid, or torpid. Every deranged default impetus is overridden with the sense of splendour, the sense of exquisiteness, the sense of immaculacy. From the point of view of Dzogchen, the beauty of genuine decorum lies in the non-manipulativeness of its natural etiquette and unpretentious elegance. We should all therefore aspire to appreciate what is beautiful in each other–whatever the clothing or absence thereof.
p196, Emailing the Lamas from Afar, Ngakpa Chögyam and Khandro Déchen, Aro Books, 2009, ISBN 978-0-9653948-5-7